Fear Of Missing Out

When I first heard the phrase FOMO I felt totally disenchanted by the term, I couldn't relate to it. Missing out on what? I never had the conscious experience of wishing I was somewhere else or in the middle of the action...or so I fantasized at the time.

After immersing in techniques to dissolve the sense of being small, separate, and isolated- it dawned on me. FOMO is everywhere!!! Taking a closer look at my own inner separation made it absolutely clear to me: not only did I sometimes feel like I was missing out, but my entire life was a FOMO-freak-out.
I didn't actually experience genuine peace and happiness- ever. What I called happy was a manufactured attempt to create just the right conditions, to build an experience of happiness through getting something or having something. It never lasted; the vision of peace always seemed just out of view and happiness always felt just a little bit flat. The chase was always building!
Then layers of separation began to fall away in my NLP explorations with Wholeness Process- I began to find out where is the one who is falling behind, and who's the one that thinks more is better? What a trip!

It turns out the magic sauce in the flavor of life is attuning to the subtleties that point to our true nature, which is complete and whole. I came to find that every object's purpose is to point back 180 degrees to the core of experience. This is where happiness and peace are, only veiled by misconceptions about ownership and effort. In allowing effort and ownership to release from our bodies and minds we find authentic happiness, right there- shining.
Happiness cannot be extracted from an object, situation, or relationship because we are the happiness we seek. Any attempt to become happy is a step away from the wholeness that we inherently are. What if we all took a step toward wholeness, together, and actually could be the change we want to see in the world?

Have you ever looked into the eyes of a baby? Can you recall the way they look at the world with a sense of wonder? It is a nearly universal feeling of awe to see the look they have (when their physical needs are met- of course), not because it reminds us of being a child or because we think it is cute to look so infatuated with the world. We are struck by the look of a baby because we were born with the same natural spacious presence and it remains completely available, right this second!
A baby reminds us of the innocence of existence that is our simple yet profound true nature; awareness. Experiencing the world directly is the exact opposite of FOMO, and we are reminded of this profundity when we look at a baby being this way. The more often we experience ourselves in a less contracted state, the way a baby just is, the more easily we flow through life at ease and in peace.

The magic secret sauce of awareness can flavor every dimension of life when we allow the residues of separation to simply be noticed from this place of effortless observing. Repetition is what led to contraction and repetition is what dissolves the sense of lack, (the sense of missing out). When we live this way more often- knowingly, the sense of FOMO is revealed to only be the Ego sensing it's own insufficiency, it's own defeat.

The celebration in this understanding continues for a lifetime: free of the fruitless cycle of seeking what could never bring peace or happiness we can dance in the freedom and wholeness of experience- being ourselves, reality.